There are many reasons why a person would want to use the influence of a candle flame to bring about the desired change in a person or situation. Lighting a petition flame, candle, oil lamp or even a burnt offering has been considered normal and even sacred since the Old Testament. In the olden times, people made offerings of the finest Olive Oil for a perpetual lamp to be lit for their benefit for a good harvest, easy childbirth (for their wife or daughter), for thankfulness, for happiness and for many other, personal reasons. the same holds true today. We burn candles or oil lamps for a particular feast day or Saints’ Day; for prosperity, for money, for thanks for blessings received, for continued success in life, and so on. The list nowadays can go on forever.

There are times, however, when you should err on the side of caution in burning a candle to evoke change in a situation. To light a candle could potentially, exasperate or worsen the condition. Here are some reasons to wait to burn a candle for a situation:

Number 1 (and probably the most logical reason) – You are being coerced or forced to burn a candle by someone who has given you a reading and claims that their $150.00 candle will do the trick. A good, ethical reader, spiritual worker, conjurer or root worker should NEVER charge you a week’s worth of wages for a candle. If you are faced with the situation, tell them you have to go check your bank balance and then GET THE HECK OUTTA THERE!

Look, I burn candles for clients all the time (I charge $5.00), and the candle’s cost, the oil that I apply, my time I spend with the candle and sending you a photo and update on its’ actions have been reasonably thought out and it is a big, bad NO-NO to cheat someone because you will then be cheated. So, once again, if you are faced with the possibility of paying any more than $10.00 for a spiritual candle to be burned in your behalf, please reconsider the service.

Number 2 (maybe almost equally as important) - Don’t do something that you’ll regret later. If you are mad because you just found out that the lying, stinkin’ dawg that you have been working so hard to support has been partying with those hoochies next door, your emotions are going to be haywire and you will throw out all sorts of negative energies that once you place a light to a flame with all that swirling around inside and around you; this is some heavy stuff that you will never change.

Do you remember that some of you were taught to never point your finger or jab the air in front of someone when you are mad as hell and yelling at them? Same thing; you are cursing them. Then later, when you find out that the one you are all mad about went over to fix the broken water faucet (or else the place would have flooded), then you got a whole lot of ‘spiritual backpeddling’ to do. That’s when you start doing Reversible candles, Back Off, Jack or Return to Me Candle Spells because you are trying desperately to undo the things you done placed on them!

Number 3 (every thirty days or so) - Your period. Period. Some spiritual workers, depending on their belief system, may or may not do any readings, consultations or magical work during those few days when everything goes on the fritz. There just isn’t enough soy milk on the planet to undo the burn-down-the-mission-because-ya-just-feel-like-kill-someone (non-gender specific) (thanks Elton and Cypress Hill). It takes a lot out of a reader or worker to take in your personal feelings, transfer them onto a candle or doll, then go lay down and take a 4 hour nap. Wait until you are not on a losin’ streak (’cause you can’t get no, no, no, no, hey,hey,hey), then go get ‘em!

While this was written a little tongue-in-cheeky, it is meant to be a warning post about losing control when charging candles and setting lights to activate change – whether for the good or the bad.

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A reader asks why her candle isn’t bringing her man closer. We investigate why…

Dear Jacqueline,

I have been burning a candle for this guy that I am crazy about doesn’t seem to work! One week, he is close to me and acting like we are it, then the next week he is distant or can’t come see me for some reason. I think I am doing something wrong. Can you help me determine if this candle spell is going to work?

Thanks!

Stephanie

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There are really four major things that occur when you try a candle spell and it doesn’t seem to work. Ruling out candles that were a ‘bad pour’, too much oil and herbs in the candle, being in a drafty area, the cat, your roommate or family member with a fear of fire – the list can go on and on. Here are more ‘magickal’ reasons for your unsuccessful candle spells.

The first thing is to rule out the physical: something in your preparation caused you to do something wrong, either applying the oils without enough conviction, using the ‘wrong’ products or substituting something, you were not in the right ‘frame of mind’ or you had other factors (like a menstrual period) that was affecting your energy, or you are going about the wrong way to ‘fix’ the problem. This happens most of the time with new candle workers or people with little candle burning experience.

A second reason for candle burning failure can be ‘overworking’ the spell (as I call it); this is akin to ‘obsessing’ about it to the point that your mind races with the thought of the outcome and you begin to talk about what you are doing to friends. You may begin to think, ‘Well, maybe if I had used THIS instead of THAT…’ or nit-picking your choices of products. This stress of over thinking your processing and activation of the candle will not only ‘drive you nuts’, but will also undo what you wanted to happen in the first place. You need to calm yourself and just DO IT; anoint the candle with your best intentions, use your spiritual products as you first thought would work and leave it be. You can ‘tweak’ the recipe after this candle is done. This type of candle failure is the most common with people who do candles for themselves.

Another reason that your candle might be working willy-nilly (sometimes they do, sometimes they won’t) is you are under some opposition – either by a rival for his attentions or someone who has it out for YOU! Remember the old Staples’ Singers song, “Smiling Faces” (‘Smiling faces sometimes pretend to be your friends. Smiling faces show no traces of the evil that lurks within. (Can you dig it)”). You wouldn’t believe who is against you – your BBF, your Mom, Sister, the girl that works with you, HIS Mom, Sister, other females who want him. The list can be endless, but not to fret; just do your candle work and KEEP QUIET! On the weeks that the candles are acting funny, weak, going out, etc., just re do, bolster with a white candle, burn a second candle right up against the first – WHATEVER – to keep it going.

Last but not least is maybe you are just not supposed to be with him. God and your Angels knows the end of your ‘story’ (life) and maybe this man might bring you unhappiness, strife or something even more evil – and God is telling you that ‘it just ain’t so’ when it comes to a relationship with you and him. We all can’t have everything you want (like the Stones song) but maybe your candle isn’t working is a way for the Universe to tell you that you need to wait, contemplate and listen to what your heart says about this relationship. Is there signs of control? Abuse? Is he lazy and unmotivated? A User? If you wait, a message will be sent to you – either by yourself, an incident or a friends telling you something – hat you might not have heard, seen or experienced before.

Hopes this helps in determining if you should continue in your candle works for this relationship. Best of Luck.

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Did you know? – A main ingredient of Love, Money Drawing and Fast Luck Condition Oil is cinnamon? Yep. This spice has ‘volatile’ qualities – not meaning like fighting – but it is a spicy, ‘hot’ spice that will cause a reaction of you were to place a bit of it in your eye or nose (the reaction of the eye – tearing or watery eyes – indicates a natural reaction to the spice – thus labeling it ‘volatile’), the sneezing and watery eyes would attest to the power of cinnamon. Ironically, when polled, most men loved the scent of baking cinnamon buns in the oven – it evoked images of home, comfort and being loved (exactly what we want when we are luring a lover).

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A reader asks for help. (This letter has been corrected for spelling errors)

Hi Jacqueline,

My soon to be ex-husband is making my life crap.   I’ve been separated for nearly 3 years and he still has a hold over my emotions!! We have a gorgeous little girl of 4 yrs. I left him due to his controlling behavior & drinking. I’ve burned umpteen bits of paper with hope of moving on to no avail. I’ve bought a black candle as last resort & I am going to get the separation agreement (copy) and write something on it in hope of him finding another love to move on and to stop him tormenting me.

Please help xx

Louise (last name removed to protect the family)

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Louise,

You are on the right track but a bit off – like a recipe that is lacking something. First, if he is not living with you, then he cannot bother you. You must clarify something because first you say he is your soon to be ex, meaning that things are already going through the courts, then the separation papers…so I am confused on the legal matters.

The only reason why you would want to burn a black candle on the papers is to get the job DONE – so the question is: who is stalling the process? If he is controlling, and he is not living with you, how can he control you?

Let me give you two scenarios and things that you can do for the situation:

Situation Number One: (he is living with you while you are getting the divorce) - Get your own apartment. If this is not financially feasible, move in with family. You need to physically get away from him as much as possible in order for any candle spell to work.

If this is not possible – force him to move. Get a few wasps nests, some burnt charcoal, red crushed peppers, dirt from a grave and doggie doo-doo (yes, I am serious), dry it out in the sun, making sure you spend a few minutes a day with a magnifying glass focused on the mixture and curse the debil our of it and sprinkle it in his shoes, the floor board of his car or truck, in his bed (the bed you DO NOT sleep in) and wait for him to leave.  If this is just too funky for you to do, get some Run, Devil, Run Condition Oil and sprinkle it in his shoes every day when he is not using them. Burn the same oil on a red and a black glass candle with his picture wedged in between them. Spend some time every day standing in front of the candle cursing and swearing at it (as if the candles were really him); telling him to hit the road, Jack.

Use brown court case candles on top of a copy (not the original) of the Court documents. You can anoint this with a little Crown of Success Anointing Oil and sprinkle a little tobacco in around the top of the candle. Make sure you follow directions on proper cleaning and anointing of your candles.

Situation Number Two: (you are living elsewhere but the divorce is not going anywhere) – Time to put on the ‘brass brassiere” and get to work!  You must attend each and every Court proceeding and appear to want to ‘make peace’ with the other party – ESPECIALLY WHEN THERE IS A CHILD INVOLVED – each parent has to have some time with the child – unless you or he is selling arms to the terrorists, selling drugs or running a whorehouse – each of you are responsible for the raising of that child. So, if the Courts ask you to improve your lot in life – get a job or go to school. If he is the deadbeat, do everything you can to tie him up financially – a lien on the house (if he owns one), keep your ‘feelers’ out there to hear if he has a job and TURN HIM IN to the County agency handling the child support issues.

REMEMBER: You must take the ‘high moral ground’ and don’t play the child against the father (called Parental Alienation) – the mediators see right through that (that is why they have Master and PhD’s). They will look favorably on you if you are trying to ‘be fair’ (bite your tongue) with the other parent. You loved him at one time enough to bring a child into this world and worse case scenario, if something happens to you, HE is the one who gets custody of the child (not your Mother or Sister). He is the first line blood relative of your child.

Here’s a novel idea (hold your pants on and listen); wish him SUCCESS. Think about it. If he is successful, you always will get child support and he will be so busy working that he has no time to go to Court with you. Use a yellow candle in glass with “Crown of Success” or “Crowning Glory” Anointing Oil in it with his name on a piece of paper under the candle.

Bottom line, if you want the proceedings to move forward, burn a red glass candle on a copy of the Court papers with “FAST LUCK” Condition Oil so that things will get moving and you can then begin a new life.

Tough decisions, but ones you have to make. I wish you all the Luck.

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