We have already explored the possible reasons of why your love spell is not working with some pre-ritual problems that may forewarn of disastrous results. You can read this on the first part of this series titled, “Free Candle Spells | Why Your Love Candle Spell Isn’t Working Pt. 1 (click on blue words to go to article).

The second part of this three part series will talk about things that you may be doing that are thwarting your success in your love candle ritual.

1. You are doubtful of the power of candle spell magic and/or you do not have confidence in your own power. – Damn that brain! It keeps you from attaining what you want. You can talk your way right into a funk so low that even Satan needs to send a search party. All jokes aside, you may be thwarting your own success by doing something as little as saying, “I HOPE this candle will bring to me (insert name here)” or “Please let me and (name our target here) get together/back together/fall in love”. URRRRT….NO! One of the best ways to negate any positivity in candle burning is wishing and hoping something will happen. It is better that you wait until you either had a good cuppa joe or feel raging hormones before you light a candle with a POSITIVE MIND. Examples of statements that are truly positive are something like “With the lighting of this candle, I FIRMLY BELIEVE that (insert name here) and I will become a couple in a long lasting and happy relationship that will last forever” or “I KNOW that with the lighting of this candle, I WILL be the next girlfriend/lover/wife of (insert name here”. See how much more affirmative and positive those two statements are?

2. You are skimping on ritual and product or editing the length of ritual - When you read a good spell that just ‘clicks’ with you or if you are under a root workers suggestion to do something, do not buy or obtain items because you believe they can stand in for the real thing  ’in a pinch’. I have had people ask me if they could use a half burned fragrance candle that is PINK like I suggested, but they don’t want to let it ‘go to waste’ so they want to substitute it for a new candle. Look, that candle that was being considered for substitution was meant to cover odors in the bathroom – why would you want to now suggest to use it for a love spell (unless you want your love affair to go down the toilet, right?). The original purchase of the candle was NOT for magic, but clearing the room of nasty odors. Don’t be cheap and go get a fresh, new candle. Also, if you are to do something for X amount of nights, don’t cheat yourself by figuring that you do not need to do the prayer or ritual every day/night. The Saints do not care if you are bone tired, just five minutes of meditation or prayer will do the trick. Heck, even when I was running out the door one morning, I paused and extended my right hand, saying to the candle, “You know my intentions, I just got to not be late for work!”. I backed it up with a wee bit more time in the evening to make sure I was applying the time.

3. You are the victim of a ‘rip off’ artist - They are out there, and more come out of the woodwork when life gets tough. Each spiritual worker, root worker or spell caster determines what is their price for products and their time and work. Some things do take quite a lot of money, like making sure all the items have been properly cleansed, blessed and anointed. Some things are pricey if you are practicing a certain methodology or belief system. But, if you are being charged $100.00 for a candle, without any notice of it being lit or not, you are being victimized when you are at a most vulnerable emotional state. Shame on them!

I have recently seen a pattern in regards to the line of questioning that I am getting in my e-mails regarding love spells. It seems that there are those who are not happy with the outcome or how long it is taking. I thought I would write an article to address some issues or situations that you may be having or are seeing with candle spell work. This is part 1 of a 3 part series that I am writing to address issues in failed love candle spells.

Here is the scenario; you met a guy and you two are really hitting it off. You want to ‘turn it up’, meaning you want to make the two of you get closer. You choose to find a candle spell or you visit the botanica, candle shop or a spiritual worker to do the work for you. It has been some time, not terribly long, but you are not seeing the results you want. Examine these reasons why the love candle spell may not be working and see if any of them sounds familiar.

1. Magic is not “Guaranteed” - Pure and simple. Magic, candles, incantations or even prayers, are the infusion of wishes, desires and hopes that you are releasing into the ethers of the Universe. I see clients all the time who have gone from one reader to a psychic to a spiritual worker, all for naught, because each one had done work for the person/client and it did not turn out the way it was intended or not at all. The Internet is chock full of websites promising, even assuring the reader that their spells ar “100% Guaranteed”.Truth. If it is not meant to Be, then the Almighty will not allow it to happen. The girl or guy might be the most handsome/beautiful/gorgeous body Heaven sent down, but if their is evil intent afoot in the Future and the Higher Power that resides in the clouds doesn’t want you to experience it, then no amount of candles will make It happen. You have to ask, pray, meditate or incant what you desire, but with the understanding of this:

It Might Not Happen Despite How Many Candles You Burn.

‘ Nuff said!

2. You have unrealistic goals – This falls into the “George Clooney or (insert movie/rock star’s name here)” section. There is just some circles that you and your target will circulate in and your paths will NOT cross. Another scenario is the “I’ll wait forever for you, Eddie!” syndrome, despite Eddie being married with 4 kids and a mortgage that would make Donald Trump cringe. Really? You want to become ‘Instant Step-Mom?’. Brave girl. The same goes for men as well; be careful what you wish for…..

3. There are underlying issues, problems and situations to take into consideration (further enhancing the above) – OK, so Eddie is really and truly is “the One”. He’s got 4 kids, a mortgage, and a wife that is taking him to the cleaners. Take a moment and think 5 years down the road – are you planning to be the major ‘breadwinner’ in your relationship with Eddie because three quarters of his check goes to HER? This is an example of what could happen once you are fully entrenched into a relationship. If she/he is cheating now, using now, lying now, then it is bound to happen later as well. Do not try to “fix” another person (which is a great majority of concerns lately). They are what or who they are; love them with all their faults or move on.

Look for Part 2 in a few days regarding reasons your love candle spells are not working.

I got off the phone the other day with someone who was asking why her candles were not “working”. I realized I was right to have the initial presumption that she meant that she was not getting the results she wanted. When I asked her a few questions on the nature of her candles, she told me it was for her boyfriend of three years to basically, “put up or shut up” – meaning she wanted him to make a full commitment to her. It seems that he would run hot and cold with their relationship; that when he felt he needed to be ‘free’, she was to go along with it and allow him to flit and flutter into and back out of her life like a butterfly in the backyard. Now mind you, SHE couldn’t so the same thing; no, she was to ‘wait’ for him to come to his senses and return.

She then told me she was doing a candle spell she had found on the Internet about making someone make up their mind. This was the first red flag I saw in the matters of candle burning and I told her so. This candle spell is contradictory in its creation and nature; you just can’t expect someone to stop being wishy-washy and burn a candle to make them choose one way or the other because the person is acting EXACTLY as is being petitioned for – making one choice or the other.

I told her that she needed to trash that spell and do one that basically says, “Get over here and be my man, dammit!” – in a nutshell. Only there was a deeper problem when I told her that this type of clear, direct and demanding candle spell was needed.

She was not sure if she wanted him.

Whaaat? Why are you burning candles for them then, I asked.

Her answer was that if he didn’t want to be with her, then she wanted him to be gone and stay gone but if he really wanted her, he needed to stay and stay stayed (a play with words).

So, we were working on the recipient of the blessing from the candles not being completely and 100% sure if this was what they wanted, coupled with a person that wasn’t sure they wanted to stay or go.

I had to tell her that no candle spell will be successful unless you are completely and totally SURE that the results or outcomes from the candle burning is truly what she wanted.

Kind of like pointing a gun at a person that you would rather be six feet under, pulling the trigger, and then saying, “I really didn’t MEAN IT!!!”

So I suggested a very non-hoodoo-y, magical thing to do: Go make two lists of the good and bad qualities about this person. The list with the more items wins.

It would have been easier for me to play into her candle spell, load her up with a lot more spells to create more confusion and also sell her a bunch more oils.

Jacqueline don’t play that way. I have a higher power that I have to justify my moves with. I had another recent encounter with the same situation, and I wrote about it on my other blog on Tarot by Jacqueline. I called it “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” – after the Rolling Stones song. Click on the blue title to go to the blog post.

To summarize my story today, I want to emphasize that you must be certain and focused on your intention you have in regards to candle burning; don’t be weak or flip-flop on your goal, otherwise you might find yourself spending lots of cash with many workers and not getting a whole lot of results – a loss for all concerned.